Inside the Mind of the Malignant Narcissist

Art by Rob Goldstein

Art by Rob Goldstein Found on Pinterest

Almost nine months ago I received an email from someone I thought was a friend. I had written her to tell her that I wasn’t feeling well and that I wanted to take a break from social media.

In short…I felt ill.

This is the email that I received in response:

Art by Rob Goldstein July 15th, 2015

I was stunned. She was no longer following my blog and she had told someone neither of us knew the lie that I no longer wanted to be friends with her.

I immediately recognized a triangulation and understood that I was dealing with a narcissist.

I didn’t know that I was dealing with a narcissist that would make my abusive
mother look like an amateur.

I can’t remove her as an administrator from the ‘groups’ part of my Flickr account and she refuses to leave.

I asked her in private to step…

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  1. Thank you for this timely post. I’m sorry you are having to deal with this. It is hard to unglue ourselves from the pain these individuals inflict. Thru therapy I’m learning to remove myself away from their ego and retreat to the safety of my net. It is true that at the very base of a narcissist there is a very insecure individual. They prop themselves up on the arms of their victim.

    Holding you in my thoughts.


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    • In a sense she’s done me a favor.

      Maybe she knew this email would get back to me and assumed that I would never reveal it.

      She was half right….had I not been in therapy I would not have posted the email because it seems so tasteless to have to do.

      In a sense she forces me to behave like a narcissist in order to relieve myself of the burden of having her my life.

      I consider triangulation tacky.

      I associate triangulation with the poorly educated gossips of my childhood—and of course my Mother, who lived for drama, chaos and the destruction of others.

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      • Shedding light on a problem is as cathartic as giving voice to a fear that swallows us. It removes it’s power and breaks the chains that bind us.

        I’m thankful for your post. Your timing was perfect for me. I’m on a road of recovery from being subjected to the insanity of a narcissist. I’m choosing to actively remove myself from their sickness. I can’t help this person and he chooses to not see his problem. Thank God I have learned that I don’t own one bit of his

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      • We get bit because we are human, empathetic, caring, and because we never lose hope. We believe, we trust, and sometimes a snake slithers in. This world will always have those who build themselves up on the backs of others. They must do so because they are filled with insecurities.

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